How to Break Your Man Down Day by Day
by Ann Thrope
“He said we were going window shopping but he took me to Lowes!”
You found your man and coerced him into engagement. He let you plan the wedding however you wanted, and took you on your dream honeymoon, but what’s next? If you think you’re out of the water now, you’re in for a surprise when your man starts giving you lip every time you tell him to do things. It can be difficult to make a man care about your needs as well as his own, and for some the prospect may not actually be a possibility. Nonetheless, you can try, and so here are a few effective ways to help your husband or significant other see things from your perspective.
Make him dependent on you.
You need to convince your man that you have something he doesn’t. There are a number of ways to do this, including making more money than him, being a good cook, bearing children, and withholding sex. You need to have a few good lines like, “I take care of these kids all day and you can’t even…” or “I have a headache because you never took the trash out.” and “If you don’t I’m leaving you.”
Don’t give an inch.
Breaking your man down can take months or even years, but it will only take longer if you make it into a game of give and take. You need to take, take, take, or else you’ll never make any progress. Make him do things that you wouldn’t do yourself, like driving several hours to see you, buying you expensive dinners, and Valentine’s Day Wednesdays.
Using sex to your advantage is surely something you’ve learned already, but it can’t hurt to practice fundamentals. First off, you have to make him work for it. Make sure he realizes that if he doesn’t play by your rules, there isn’t going to be any game at all. Using sex starts outside the bedroom. You need to keep him thinking about having sex with you as much as possible, but keep the actual time spent having sex to a minimum. Be receptive, but not easy, or else you risk boring him. Try on new outfits for him, act kinky but don’t be kinky, and always be more generous with sex on vacations, or else he may become too comfortable staying at home.
When your man does something for you, don’t let him off easy if he doesn’t do it exactly as you want it. You need to make sure that he understands that its not the thing being done that is important, but how you want it to be done. If he does, then you are close to being on your way to having the man you deserve. Only give him what he wants when he has finished doing everything you want, i.e. never.